Misogyny Brings Murder And Tragedies (Commentary About The UCSB massacre)

Recently, in light of the massacre at UCSB, I feel I need to talk about the misogynist statement where he rambles on about killing blond sluts and how womyn didn't love him enough. The fact that he said that shit would have been pathetic and laughable if he didn't act on it. But he did and it was tragic. Some groups of men want to use this tragedy to reinforce male entitlement and make the shooter out to be a victim. This also brought the conspiracy nuts and wannabe Alex Joneses out of the wood works try to gloss it over by saying that the shooting was fake. Well it is very real and very tragic for the families and loved ones of the people he gunned down. Elliott Rodger was not crazy, he was not a victim and unfortunately he is not alone. He is part of an epidemic of male violence against womyn as retaliation for feelings of rejection. He was a misogynist. He was a terrorist... not a martyr, not a victim, not someone who suffers from mental illness and certainly not justified. You would think MRAs would want to tone down their hate speech for a bit, right? Wrong. The MRAs and their whole lot seem to think if one of us womyn had put out for him he wouldn't have been driven to this (because clearly womyn are responsible for whether some guy murders people or not) and some are even rallying around the guy as some sort of victim. One of the MRA groups called A Voice for Men has a conference coming up in Detroit. There is a petition to stop the conference, by the way. The conference is in extremely bad taste considering the recent massacre. Who is to blame for this massacre? Elliot Rodger first and foremost is to blame. The culture of male entitlement and violence is another example. Men are taught in society that they deserve to "have" a grrrl and that womyn are commodities for men to "get" like when you go to the store to get a pack of cigarettes. Well womyn aren't a commodity to get. We are people with feelings, dreams, aspirations and interests of our own.

My condolences to the friends, loved ones and family of the six people who Elliot Rodger killed. My heart goes out to you.

Idealization: Flattery Or Unreasonable Expectations

I heard a term recently someone referring to the "ideal partner" and it rubbed me the wrong way so I had a discussion with a friend of mine hoping he might have some insight. There seems to be something messed up about idealizing a person (though on some level at some point most likely everyone, including me, is guilty of this) as it seems like putting someone on a pedestal and putting expectations on them that they didn't necessarily consent to. The friend I was discussing this with said that the term is like the term "the one" and that is a fairytale. I thought about this and he is right, it is fairytale bullshit. I feel that maybe the reason the term rubs me the wrong way is it is that hetero-normative fairytale bullshit. If someone is labelled that "ideal partner" and they don't live up to said ideals that this person is now expected to live up to, that puts them in a position of failure to a non-consentual expectation. That is really unfair to the one who is idealized. Idealization of a person really hurts that person in the end because nobody can always live up to the ideals thrust upon them as an expectation. Really, I'm serious, nobody can. When they fail, they can't meet these obligations, that idealization turns to the demonization that really is the other side of the same coin. Idealization and demonization really end up being a trap. The idealization puts a kind of pressure on a person that never ends well. Nobody is "ideal" we are all just people who interact with various other people in our own unique various ways, but ultimately we are all skin, muscles, skeleton, various organs, etc. that's all. Humyn.

Dear Putin, Have A Nice Bowl Of Shut The Fuck Up For Your Fucking Face To Drown In

A while back Putin passed a law banning swearing in literature, film and music. This kind of censorship is a really slippery slope. If someone wonders why I would say such things they such take a look at here in the USA how the list of words prohibited as obscene by the Federal Communications Commission and how that list has grown. But none of that is the real reason this censorship law is fucked up. The real reason is that any rule that limits or in anyway inhibits artists's work will hold back progress on a cultural level. There is plenty of art I despise and I will call artists out who make sexist, racist or otherwise bigoted art. But government censorship of art is never fucking okay. That shit is just plain wrong. Does Putin's anti-profanity law surprise me? Hell to the fuck no. It's not like he is known for being an advocate for freedom or even humyn decency. His treatment of the members of Pussy Riot is indicative of that. So Putin can go fuck himself.