Idealization: Flattery Or Unreasonable Expectations

I heard a term recently someone referring to the "ideal partner" and it rubbed me the wrong way so I had a discussion with a friend of mine hoping he might have some insight. There seems to be something messed up about idealizing a person (though on some level at some point most likely everyone, including me, is guilty of this) as it seems like putting someone on a pedestal and putting expectations on them that they didn't necessarily consent to. The friend I was discussing this with said that the term is like the term "the one" and that is a fairytale. I thought about this and he is right, it is fairytale bullshit. I feel that maybe the reason the term rubs me the wrong way is it is that hetero-normative fairytale bullshit. If someone is labelled that "ideal partner" and they don't live up to said ideals that this person is now expected to live up to, that puts them in a position of failure to a non-consentual expectation. That is really unfair to the one who is idealized. Idealization of a person really hurts that person in the end because nobody can always live up to the ideals thrust upon them as an expectation. Really, I'm serious, nobody can. When they fail, they can't meet these obligations, that idealization turns to the demonization that really is the other side of the same coin. Idealization and demonization really end up being a trap. The idealization puts a kind of pressure on a person that never ends well. Nobody is "ideal" we are all just people who interact with various other people in our own unique various ways, but ultimately we are all skin, muscles, skeleton, various organs, etc. that's all. Humyn.