Fourth Of July Whitewash (Red, White And Bullshit)

Everyone is going bonkers over July 4th. I get it, I like fireworks too (when I am mentally prepared for them) and the festivities can be fun. But I have seen an insane amount of stuff glorifying the founding fathers for defeating tyranny and kicking the lobster backs out. Lets get one thing straight every one of the motherfuckers who signed the declaration of independence was a privileged white dude. Half of them were slave owners. But the government they created just continued the genocide that they had originally been doing in the name of the British crown. You see, when they talked about equality they weren't including womyn, native americans, black people or poor people. They wanted equality for American born, rich, white, land owning men. So when I hear people talking about bringing back '76 I have to ask, do you really want slavery? Do you really want to undo womyn's suffrage? There weren't even the minimal domestic violence laws that we have today, do we want that back too? I know these tea baggers like to glorify those days and considering their views on gays, womyn, people of color, etc it makes sense they would worship archaic documents written by backwards people during less progressive times. Do I love America? Yes. I love the Appalachian Mountains, I love the rest of the natural landscape, I love most of the people in America and I love the cultures of various localities of this country. I love American food. I do not, however, love the government here. It wasn't any better from the start. So stop whitewashing history, people. You know who you are.

Men's Rights Activism: A Menace To The Progress Of Our Species...

I'm hearing about with increasing frequency about these "men's rights" groups. Amongst these groups, I keep on hearing about A Voice for Men. Now whenever I hear about this group or hear a men's rights activist talk, I really have a hard time deciding whether to puke because of how disgusting they are or laugh at how stupid they sound. This notion that feminists oppress men is stupid. For feminists to oppress men, those of us who are feminists would have to be in a position of real materially measurable power within the structure of the system and the institutionalized social hierarchies. We really don't have such power. Do men face some fucked up shit from the system? Yes. The draft is an example. However, feminists didn't create the draft, as a matter of fact, many feminists are pretty strongly opposed to imperialist wars and all the macho bullshit associated with war. What is the Men's Rights Movement about? Scapegoating womyn and feminists for their troubles. Scapegoats have never had pretty results in history.
But let us look at the facts, shall we? Womyn's bodies are regulated in regards to reproductive healthcare decisions being meddled with by laws. Womyn are taught how not to be raped. We are told to cover our bodies as to not tempt men. We are told not to drink at parties, not to go out at certain hours, not to draw attention and if we were raped then we are guilty because we somehow failed to prevent the man (who we obviously tempted) from raping us. We have dysphoria sold to us to keep us buying their products. We have a pay gap that has made it difficult for working class womyn to get out of abusive marriages for economic reasons.
That macho masculinist shit fed to men who have easily misplaced anger by AVfM and other men's rights groups has a poisonous effect on the socio-political climate. But to make bad even worse, when some heartless mysogynist egomaniac with no conscience gets pissed of because his male-entitlement  wasn't nurtured and fulfilled and he kills people over being rejected by womyn, that climate dismisses  him as one lunatic even though he has been many men many times over. They play that shit down. They even express sympathy for him saying "why didn't one of you sluts sleep with him?" as if we owed that to men to keep them from murdering. But that is what the "men's rights movement" wants, a culture of coercion and male entitlement. Fear: If I don't sleep with him he might kill me and/or others. Entitlement: He killed her because she rejected him, poor boy.
That is why the men's rights movement is a menace to any kind of healthy progress of the humyn species.

Misogyny Brings Murder And Tragedies (Commentary About The UCSB massacre)

Recently, in light of the massacre at UCSB, I feel I need to talk about the misogynist statement where he rambles on about killing blond sluts and how womyn didn't love him enough. The fact that he said that shit would have been pathetic and laughable if he didn't act on it. But he did and it was tragic. Some groups of men want to use this tragedy to reinforce male entitlement and make the shooter out to be a victim. This also brought the conspiracy nuts and wannabe Alex Joneses out of the wood works try to gloss it over by saying that the shooting was fake. Well it is very real and very tragic for the families and loved ones of the people he gunned down. Elliott Rodger was not crazy, he was not a victim and unfortunately he is not alone. He is part of an epidemic of male violence against womyn as retaliation for feelings of rejection. He was a misogynist. He was a terrorist... not a martyr, not a victim, not someone who suffers from mental illness and certainly not justified. You would think MRAs would want to tone down their hate speech for a bit, right? Wrong. The MRAs and their whole lot seem to think if one of us womyn had put out for him he wouldn't have been driven to this (because clearly womyn are responsible for whether some guy murders people or not) and some are even rallying around the guy as some sort of victim. One of the MRA groups called A Voice for Men has a conference coming up in Detroit. There is a petition to stop the conference, by the way. The conference is in extremely bad taste considering the recent massacre. Who is to blame for this massacre? Elliot Rodger first and foremost is to blame. The culture of male entitlement and violence is another example. Men are taught in society that they deserve to "have" a grrrl and that womyn are commodities for men to "get" like when you go to the store to get a pack of cigarettes. Well womyn aren't a commodity to get. We are people with feelings, dreams, aspirations and interests of our own.

My condolences to the friends, loved ones and family of the six people who Elliot Rodger killed. My heart goes out to you.

Idealization: Flattery Or Unreasonable Expectations

I heard a term recently someone referring to the "ideal partner" and it rubbed me the wrong way so I had a discussion with a friend of mine hoping he might have some insight. There seems to be something messed up about idealizing a person (though on some level at some point most likely everyone, including me, is guilty of this) as it seems like putting someone on a pedestal and putting expectations on them that they didn't necessarily consent to. The friend I was discussing this with said that the term is like the term "the one" and that is a fairytale. I thought about this and he is right, it is fairytale bullshit. I feel that maybe the reason the term rubs me the wrong way is it is that hetero-normative fairytale bullshit. If someone is labelled that "ideal partner" and they don't live up to said ideals that this person is now expected to live up to, that puts them in a position of failure to a non-consentual expectation. That is really unfair to the one who is idealized. Idealization of a person really hurts that person in the end because nobody can always live up to the ideals thrust upon them as an expectation. Really, I'm serious, nobody can. When they fail, they can't meet these obligations, that idealization turns to the demonization that really is the other side of the same coin. Idealization and demonization really end up being a trap. The idealization puts a kind of pressure on a person that never ends well. Nobody is "ideal" we are all just people who interact with various other people in our own unique various ways, but ultimately we are all skin, muscles, skeleton, various organs, etc. that's all. Humyn.

Dear Putin, Have A Nice Bowl Of Shut The Fuck Up For Your Fucking Face To Drown In

A while back Putin passed a law banning swearing in literature, film and music. This kind of censorship is a really slippery slope. If someone wonders why I would say such things they such take a look at here in the USA how the list of words prohibited as obscene by the Federal Communications Commission and how that list has grown. But none of that is the real reason this censorship law is fucked up. The real reason is that any rule that limits or in anyway inhibits artists's work will hold back progress on a cultural level. There is plenty of art I despise and I will call artists out who make sexist, racist or otherwise bigoted art. But government censorship of art is never fucking okay. That shit is just plain wrong. Does Putin's anti-profanity law surprise me? Hell to the fuck no. It's not like he is known for being an advocate for freedom or even humyn decency. His treatment of the members of Pussy Riot is indicative of that. So Putin can go fuck himself.